It has recently occurred to me that I need to do more things for myself. I love to write and I find myself entertaining; I hope you do as well. I miss being creative and words have always been my favored outlet. I am slightly ADHD, typically feel awkward, and always neurotic so expect this to be my natural line of thought with some self-editing.
In the past, I have done journalistic writings but I think the idea of some stranger reading my thoughts is motivating and thrilling, yet admittedly vain, slightly creepy and scary all at the same time. It’s a new concept for me, outside of my comfort zone. Opening up to people and being vulnerable is not a strength of mine. I am the girl who once told a close friend, “I go to therapy so I can learn to be nice to strangers.”
I went for a run today, and by run I mean an interval jog/walk for almost 2 miles of hilly, city sidewalk. I love to “run” to the Freedom Park overpass. It’s just intense enough for me to feel slightly accomplished. There was a very attractive male photographer taking pictures of what I can only assume to be a newly engaged couple. I was annoyed by their typicality. I feared for a moment that the photographer was actually a past fling, Trevor, who ditched me after two seemingly amazing weeks, never to be seen again. Although I did eventually get a text, “I’m so sorry I was an asshole to you. I was in a bad place in my life. It wasn’t you, it was me..blah, blah, blah.” Thankfully it was not, it was an adorable stranger I could smile at and have delusions of grandeur, complete with us finding each other on “missed connections” and living happily ever after.
I am not newly single but I am newly resigned in the endeavor of moving on from a toxic 5 year on-again, off-again long-term not-relationship with Alex. I didn’t invent the idea of self-sabotage but I’ve definitely perfected it with this relationship and it’s time to be on my own emotionally. I do not prescribe to the theory “the best way to get over someone old is to get under someone new” anymore. I’ve tried, several times, and it still hasn’t worked. I did see him this weekend, he picked me up from the airport after a family trip. We haven’t really spoken in a month after a fight we had in which I badgered him into admitting that he “would say he doesn’t love me enough to look past my imperfections.” I admittedly wanted to see him. We watched mindless TV, I let him stay the night, we flirted and snuggled, he tried to have sex with me and I abstained. It felt like a win.
So I will write, I will run, and I will spend time with my friends and my family. I will have patience for the things that will come. I will be productive in the present. I will let go of the past.
I am naturally curvy yet petite and it would be endearing for me to tell you I am also, maybe, the hairy-est girl in the world. I struggle with self-esteem like everyone. I’ve been told many things about myself over the years. I could do a laundry list of both positive and negative adjectives that I might identify with at any given moment but I’ll let you make your own judgments. I don’t necessarily struggle with weight but I am starting to get soft and as my mother, Bernadette, told me years ago, “Well honey you’re not going to get any taller.”
I recently spent the holidays, 12 straight days, with my immediate family. My mother cannot travel alone. My brother Luke and his family live in Washington state and my sister-in-law, Lucy, recently gave birth to adorable fraternal twins, Thomas and Walter. We decided to go out for an extended Christmas because, well, they’re outnumbered with 3 boys under 4, including the toddler, Benjamin, who has some major adjustments headed his way.
Luke is a button pusher, as am I, and he got me back into the habit of doing what I consider to be “minimally active” running. I cursed him the first day, hating and loving him with every step; my brother and I have always been very close. My mother was surprisingly easier to travel with than expected. Lucy and I may have actually bonded, despite our marked differences. It should be noted I haven’t spent this much time with my family since we lived together a decade ago. It was amazing and disheartening all at the same time.